Israel is a young, dynamic country with a culture shaped by ancient traditions, waves of immigration from around the world, and the realities of life in the Middle East. Israeli social customs can surprise visitors, particularly those accustomed to more reserved Western European or North American norms. Understanding these cultural traits will help you navigate interactions with confidence and appreciate the warmth that lies beneath the directness.
Israeli Communication Style
Dugri: The Art of Directness
One of the first things visitors notice about Israelis is their directness. The Hebrew term “dugri” (borrowed from Arabic) describes straight, no-nonsense talk. Israelis tend to say exactly what they mean without the social cushioning common in many Western cultures. A shopkeeper might bluntly tell you a color does not suit you. A stranger might comment on your order at a restaurant. This is not rudeness; it is cultural honesty.
For visitors accustomed to indirect communication, this can feel jarring at first. The key is understanding that the same directness extends to warmth and generosity. The person who bluntly critiques your outfit might also insist on helping you find a better option and refuse to let you overpay.
Conversation and Debate
Israelis love conversation and are not afraid of vigorous debate. Discussions about politics, religion, and current events are common even among casual acquaintances. Do not mistake passionate disagreement for hostility. You may be asked personal questions that feel forward, such as what you do for work, whether you are married, or how much you paid for something. These questions reflect genuine curiosity rather than an intent to pry.
Feel free to engage, share your perspectives, and ask questions in return. Israelis generally respect people who express their opinions clearly, even when they disagree.
Greetings and Social Interactions
How Israelis Greet
- Shalom: The universal Hebrew greeting meaning “peace.” Used for hello, goodbye, and everything in between.
- Ma nishma?: “What’s up?” or “How are you?” A casual, friendly greeting.
- Handshakes: Common in professional and casual settings alike, though some religious Israelis may not shake hands with members of the opposite sex. If someone does not extend their hand, do not take offense; simply nod and smile.
- Cheek kisses: Among friends and acquaintances, a single kiss on each cheek is common, particularly among women and between women and men. Follow the lead of the person you are meeting.
Personal Space
Israelis tend to stand closer during conversation than many North Americans are used to. Lines (or “queues”) can feel more fluid than orderly, with people standing close together and occasionally cutting in. This is a cultural norm rather than intentional rudeness, though it takes some getting used to.
Food and Hospitality
Hospitality is deeply valued across all of Israel’s communities. If you are invited to an Israeli home, you will likely be overwhelmed with food and warmth.
Dining Customs
- Bring a gift: When invited to someone’s home, bring wine, chocolates, flowers, or a dessert. It is always appreciated.
- Expect abundance: Israeli hosts tend to prepare far more food than anyone could eat. This generosity is intentional and deeply cultural.
- Dietary considerations: If your host keeps kosher, do not bring food that mixes meat and dairy. When in doubt, bring fruit, wine, or flowers.
- Eating pace: Meals in Israel are social events. Do not rush. Enjoy the conversation as much as the food.
- Hummus etiquette: Hummus is serious business in Israel. Use pita to scoop it from the communal plate. Do not double-dip, and do not criticize the hummus at any establishment; it is a matter of local pride.
Religion in Daily Life
Israel is home to Jews, Muslims, Christians, Druze, Baha’i, and others. Religion shapes daily life in visible ways, from Shabbat closures to the call to prayer from mosques to church bells ringing in the Old City.
Diversity of Practice
Even within Judaism, there is enormous diversity. Secular Israelis may not observe any religious practices, while ultra-Orthodox communities follow strict religious laws. Respect this spectrum by not making assumptions about any individual based on their appearance or neighborhood.
Memorial Culture
Israel takes its memorial traditions seriously. On Yom HaZikaron (Memorial Day), a siren sounds across the country and everyone stops, even drivers on highways who pull over and stand in silence. On Yom HaShoah (Holocaust Remembrance Day), the same happens. If you happen to be in Israel during these occasions, join the stillness. It is one of the most moving experiences a visitor can witness.
Tipping and Service Culture
Tipping is customary in Israel, and service workers rely on tips as a significant part of their income. In restaurants, 10 to 15 percent is standard, and some restaurants add a service charge that may or may not go to staff. Check your bill before tipping to avoid double-tipping or under-tipping.
The service style in Israeli restaurants is generally more casual and less hovering than in the United States. Your server may not check on you frequently but will respond promptly when called. Requesting the check is always done by the diner; it is considered rude for a server to bring it unsolicited.
Safety and Security Culture
Visible security is part of daily life in Israel. You will see armed soldiers and police regularly, pass through security checks at malls, train stations, and public buildings, and may have your bag checked at restaurant entrances. This is normal and reflects the country’s security culture. Cooperate calmly with security personnel, and do not joke about security topics.
Language
Hebrew and Arabic are Israel’s official languages, and English is widely spoken, particularly in tourist areas, among younger Israelis, and in business settings. Learning a few basic Hebrew phrases goes a long way in making connections:
- Toda (toh-DAH): Thank you
- Bevakasha (beh-vah-kah-SHAH): Please / You’re welcome
- Slicha (slee-KHAH): Excuse me / Sorry
- Ken (kehn): Yes
- Lo (loh): No
Israelis appreciate visitors who make an effort to speak Hebrew, even if the attempt is imperfect. You will often be met with encouragement and a warm smile.
Embracing the Culture
Israeli culture is vibrant, warm, occasionally chaotic, and deeply human. The directness that startles on day one often becomes the quality travelers miss most when they leave. Approach every interaction with openness and good humor, and you will find that Israelis are among the most welcoming and generous people you will encounter anywhere in the world.
